As a parent who's son has signed with a low D1 school, and will be enrolling next fall, I am fascinated and also afraid to hear what you have to share. The only thing that many of us have to help prepare us for what to potentially expect is the good will and willingness of those of you who have been through the fire to share you experience.
One thing that I will share now is the NLI signing experience.
It was exactly one year after signing, to the very day, that we were formally submitting the request to have my son completely released from his NLI. (Yes, if you want to be released from it, there’s a formal process and it starts with you filing a request to be released with the NLI organization which they send to the school for review and approval. The things you learn on the journey!) Thankfully, the school granted it. (From what I have heard, it’s not something that they normally have to do. And, if they don’t, it impacts what you can do next.)
If you would have told me, on signing day when he was up on that stage at school, smiling for pictures at the signing, that “Exactly 365 days later, you will be submitting paperwork to have this voided,” I would told you that it was impossible for you to be more wrong. Yet, it happened.
Now, obviously, my son is not the first or the only kid to walk away from a D1 or D2 program (and, a baseball scholarship) during or immediately after his freshmen season – and changing the look back on the experience of signing day. This happens much more than most people realize. But, I would bet that almost every player and parent, on that signing day, are NOT thinking “This is just for now and things can change pretty easily and the way that I look back at this moment in the future will be different than how I feel about it right now.”
I think about that sometimes when I see someone posting pictures of their kid on signing day on social media, trumpeting the moment. I don’t fault them for it. I did the same thing. We all do it. And, I am happy for them and the kid. It really is a special moment that not everyone gets to experience. Yet, part of me also wants to say “Hopefully this works out the way you want – because it’s not a lock.” But, I don’t say that because I know the response will be: It’s impossible for you be more wrong. After all, that’s what I would have said to it as well.