Could use some advice here from some of the crafty veterans who have been through the high school ball thing. Yesterday was the first day of practice/tryouts for my son, 2023 C. My son has played travel ball for the HC for 2 years and has a great relationship with him. The coach is very new school with a lot of things he teaches. So yesterday my son meets the new C/P coach and he immediately lets my son know he's an old school guy and starts changing up his stance and receiving back to the old school way my son was taught when he was 10-12 years old. My question is, would my son be out of line for asking the new C/P coach if he can show him the way he was taught by his private catching coach? My son is afraid the coach will think he's trying to show him up or something.
IMO (without knowing more specifics of the personalities and relationships between the coaches) -
He has a great relationship with HC and HC is the boss. He should speak to HC separately. He should explain the situation to HC, ask for advice on what to do, and express that he is very concerned that he wants to be respectful to the AC and will do as asked at the end of the day. He should state that he wants to be a team player and not be a problem but is struggling with that particular change. Then, he should listen.
The key is to instruct him to be very respectful when he talks to the HC and then both coaches going forward. As others have mentioned, not an easy discussion for most HS freshmen to initiate. He will fumble some things. But, it is the spirit in which he looks for advice that will win the day for him.
This is a great early opportunity for him to start learning some of the hard lessons sport teaches. If he can push through this himself, the results are likely to be better in the long run than having dad step in with an assist.
As someone else mentioned, this is not without risk but I think the best route to take to get resolution one way or the other early on and to set the tone as a young player who will handle issues properly.
I will agree with others that there will always be different teachings and a player should pull the best from all and adapt. My recommendation applies only if the changes are significant and difficult to incorporate both teachings.
As a side note, there is a decent chance that this actually helps the two coaches move toward being on the same page, which is important. Let us know how it goes.
Second side note - as a coach, I frequently reminded players that several aspects of the game have multiple teaches and it is important that they speak up if there is any confusion or if they were being instructed outside of the program to do things a different way. We would discuss pro's and con's and determine best course moving forward for that player at that time. I think most coaches are aware of this and, hopefully, it won't be the big issue that your son fears it is.
I am almost always a big advocate of the direct approach. I veer in this instance, in part, because I think working through the HC is still working within the same organization and is likely to have better results than "my private instructor says to do it this way".