quote:Originally posted by gamedayrocks:
I'm going to take all this advice with me to the field. We have our first scrimmage in 30 minutes. I haven't spoken to J. since our discussion last night as I went to bed in tears and his dad drove him to school this morning.
In reading back over this discussion, I think my goodness - what drama! When did I become that parent I saw and couldn't stand when my husband coached little league? Actually, I sound more like one of those T-Ball parents who's expecting little Johnny to impress the League Director his first time "at tee."
Wish us luck...it's sunny but COLD here - and we're a 2A scrimmaging a 4A.
Thanks, again, I appreciate everyone's input! I'll let you know how things progress.
We tend to view the journey with our sons as a personal one, we do a lot of planning and spend money, so "we" often times is used, but I agree, this should be about what he wants to do, not what "we" want to do, with your help and guidance of course.
When son was a freshman we began getting invites to camps, showcases, to play on good travel teams in tournaments, but mine wasn't really interested, he said he had plenty of time. So we threw out the timeline and let him do what he wanted.
Without getting into details of what he did and didn't do, he managed to play D1 ball and get drafted, so it's not so much where you begin but where you end up.
Follow his lead, it's normal for young HS players to feel this way, either way things will work out, he just may need some time off right now. And if he decides to end it, that is something that you will have to accept.
Good luck.