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When to report a coach?

Lefty34Lefty34100+ posts
Last night we had a high school league game 16U. It was a good game the lead went back and forth until the 5th inning and then our boys really starting hitting. We got up by 7 runs. During the bottom of the 7th inning with two outs they had a ball shallow hit to center should have been an easy play to end the game but,our center fielder and short stop a hard collision that knocked the center fielder down flat on his back and he was seeing stars. Our coach ran out to aid him. He laid there motionless for a few minutes. Then the opposing team coach yells from his dugout- "if he's hurt get him off the field we are loosing daylight". The kid is still laid out motionless. The kids brother responded to the coach by yelling at him to look out there the kid, he's my brother & he's hurt & to back off. The Coach then yells at the ump to throw him out! throw him out! throw out that person yelling at him. The umpire turned to the coach and said "you are out of line return to you dugout" & then turned to our asst coach and said please control you fans. The player got up, refused to leave the field & we made the last out to end the game. Our boys were class acts as they went throw the line at the end of the game. That coach was heard yelling at his boys after the game just go home get out of here. Wow really is all I could say. Now this morning it is still really annoying me- so I ask when do you, as a parent, report behavior of an opposing coach or should it be left up to the parents of the hurt boy or our coach?
"A hot dog at the ballgame beats roast beef at the Ritz." ~Humphrey Bogart
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JC Jeff Connell100+ posts
Was this a league? In our area this is just an open group and no league so there would be no one to report him to.
His comments were out of line but they were not enough to report. He did not say hurt him or anything just get him off the field. These things sound bad to one team and realistic to the other. I'm surprised he did not yell, "see he was not even hurt he stayed in the game."
Just one of those things you have to deal with even though it is not good.
coach2709coach270910,000+ posts
Who are you going to report him to? What do you expect the outcome to be? Other than being a jerk what did he do that put the kids health in danger?

It's none of your business and just stay out of it. His players will eventually stop showing up and playing for him. This is a problem that will correct itself because he sounds like an idiot.
trojan-skippertrojan-skipper1,000+ posts
yep, there's jerks everywhere. If that coach would have heard the same comment from someone else he'd probably be going nuts...
We had a similar deal the other night. During pre-game warmups their coach was really negative, throwing around a lot of bad language and just being a bully to his players. They played really well and we won a close game (in part due to a batting out of order he cost his team an out) He told one of our fans (a grandpa) to shutup or he'd kick his azz.... I try not be a rabbit-ears but some guys are jerks.
We got out of there with no altercation or what have you but I would imagine (like 2709 says) by the end of June he'll either be on suspension or his kids will just evaporate... which is the sad outcome... I guess he got suspended last fall from youth football... what a bunch of rambling.

My take... just try to move on and be glad you don't have to deal with this clown.
B ball410+ posts
Usually I agree with TR, however, I think you report a Coach when he puts kids in danger or they do something that is harmful to players. e.g. Telling a kid to intentionally hit a kid with a pitch. Drunk on the field, etc.

But words from another dugout are neither. This Coach will get a reputation for being a jerk, which is far more damaging in the long run than you reporting him.
Lefty34Lefty34100+ posts
quote:
Originally posted by wraggArm:

Lefty, Call your Mommy and tell her. She can probably do something about Coach MeaniePants.


Wow - really - wraggarm are you related to this coach? I am the Mom and I asked a question because I didn't know the answer I thought this is where we came when we needed an answer especially when new to "the next level" of baseball - not because I was in the mood for personal ridicule.

Thank you trojan-skipper & the others who answered my question for what it was just a question of ethics & lines I did not want to cross.
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P PGStaff10,000+ posts
Lefty,

The coach will either change his ways or he will be gone in due time. There's nothing wrong with you reporting him if you feel it is the right thing to do. Might make a difference the next time he makes a fool out of himself. Don't expect your report to get anything done immediately.

When I coached I had a parent report me to the AD and president of the college. The complaint was that I was teaching our players to cheat! Had to do with the fake bunt and steal! The cheating was trying to blind the catcher for a second with the barrell of the bat before drawing it back.
Lefty34Lefty34100+ posts
Thank You!

It was a Club Ball League Game & I was surprised that some one within our own club would act like that. Our team coaches and all the others we have played have never acted out like this guy did & our coaches are competitive & strict without being harsh. I just hate to think that some one like that is representing our Club. I am now sure after reading these responses that our coaches will be the ones to handle this.
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justbaseballjustbaseball10,000+ posts
quote:
When I coached I had a parent report me to the AD and president of the college.


This made me chuckle. I once was "reported" too...as a youth league coach...reported to the Board of the league...I was the President of the league. Smile

What was my indiscretion? I had a batter called out on the other team, in the playoffs, for batting out of order. Big Grin Actually, I probably wouldn't have done it even then, except the other team's coaches accused me of having my 10-year old batters get hit on purpose before the game and again during the game. Eek

In all seriousness Lefty. We always took complaints about coaches seriously in our league. It usually resulted in a "conversation" with the coach if we could substantiate it. At this point thats all you should expect. Then move on. The pileup of these events doesn't usually end with one incident. He'll be gone soon enough if it becomes a habit.
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Midlo DadMidlo Dad10,000+ posts
My niece's softball team is playing better than any team in her Little League has, in my observation, ever played at that age level -- including the All Star teams.

The coach is now under siege with letters to the LL's board from parents who feel he is "pushing too hard", that he does horrible things like tell runners to advance all the way home on overthrows in play, etc.

By the way, this guy never loses his cool, never berates anyone, never uses profanity or even raises his voice.

I realize girls are a different species, but what the heck is going on? Are we in the Harrison Bergeron League now?
Midlo DadMidlo Dad10,000+ posts
BTW, above I was responding to comments by Justbaseball, etc.

As to the original post, if I were the principal of that guy's school, I would want to know that this coach is giving our school a bad reputation.

No, he's not risking injury to anyone, but he is a bad role model for kids, and leaving him in a position of authority suggests that his superiors endorse his example.

So I think you should consider reporting him, unless it puts your son at risk of retaliation from the coach.
wraggArmwraggArm500+ posts
quote:
Originally posted by Lefty34:

Wow - really - wraggarm are you related to this coach?


Woops. Didn't know I hooked into a real Mom on this. That's what I get. You don't deserve to be ridiculed for any reason - you're a baseball Mom - and after all, you're just doing your job in considering whether to lash out in protection of those baby cubs.

I do stand by my sentiment, however. My kid would NEVER see me (or his Mother) reporting on any of those priceless few a*******s who were put on this earth to teach our son's how to deal with true indignant hostility. No, I don't know this coach. Probably would hate him. But I'd put my ball player on the field against him any day.

Look, its wonderful that your boys were class acts and shook hands and all - I think that's just great. But in the car on the way home, *honestly*, which conversation did you and the boy have:

Was it ...

A. (Mommy) "There's no excuse for that coach's behavior. I'm so proud of how you boys handled youselves - you boys were a class act. Who can we report that guy to in order to get him kicked out of this league so that nobody else has to be subjected to that again?!!!"

?

OR

B. (Dad) "Great game, kid"
(Mommy) "Yeah, nice hit to right"
(Kid) "I can't wait to play against that coach again..."

?

I'm not saying which is better, I'm just saying I believe in (B).

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