Originally Posted by Nicks mom:
Someone asked whether he had his conversation in front of his teammates. Nick knows better. He asked the coach to talk after the game, in private.
Hate to tell you this but this probably was not the best time to talk to the coach. Problem is there is nothing that can be done about it now. If he goes back to the coach again it will be perceived as whining. Most folks don't realize it but coaching a game can be a little taxing. Especially if you are in the mist of a loosing season. Having a kid come up to you and tell you that "I can get you the w" after you just lost can be interrupted as "hey coach, your line up sucks, if you would have put me in there, because Im so great (and you don't realize it) we would be winning".
You son took the right approach to talking to the coach, I would have suggested he approach him during school or after a practice to ask him when the best time to talk was. Surprising the coach right after a game probably was not the best approach to take. He asked the right question when he asked what he needed to do to earn playing time. He should have just listened to the coach and left it at that.
As others have said, there is not much he can do. He can either remain bitter and think that he is better then the rest of the team or he can accept his role on the team, have fun and be ready to play when called upon. As he is a lefty he is regulated to pitching, playing 1B or outfield at this point.
I will also throw this out there. I don't know your son so none of this might apply. How does your son approach practice? Does he walk around like he is better then everyone or does he give 100% every time and remain a team player? How are his grades? Is he a boarder line eligibility kid? Does he understand the game? By that I mean does he know what to do in every situation? Some kids have wonderful skill sets but don't understand the flow of the game and may not make the proper play.
In HS there are a lot more things that go into a coaches playing decision then just the biggest strongest most athletic kids.
One last thought. Maybe the kids on the field are better players then you are seeing right now. In our area its early in the season. We have just started conference play and a lot of the kids are facing reduced playing time. I heard a little grumbling last night and will probably hear some more tonight. Im sure the coaches will receive a phone call or two in the next few days. What a lot of the parents are not seeing is that up until last night everyone received equal playing time. Now we are playing our best 10 to 14 kids. As we were playing everyone earlier in the season the starters were dealing with reduced playing time and are still getting into the grove of playing.
Finally, you are going to get some good advice on here. Some of it may be a little brutal and may not be what you are looking for but its probably all going to be right on. Listen to the folks here. Hang out some. Many of these people have kids who have gone through what you are going through. Many of them have sons playing in college, some have kids playing Minor ball and a few have kids that have played on the big stage.